
The week’s news with a dash of psychology!
Jane Ogden (Professor in Health Psychology, Emeritus; email janeogden509@gmail.com; based on a conversation with James Cannon at Radio Surrey; 8.40 am 19/12/2025)
Week ending 19/12/2025
All opinions are those of Jane Ogden
In the week up to the festive season, often dominated by celebration and excess, this week’s news has seen many stories of addiction. We have read about the tragic murder of the film Director Rob Reiner and his wife Michele and watched as their son Nick was charged. His life seems to have been a struggle against substance abuse and periods of homelessness, and the stories described periods of tough parenting and his parents’ regret over listening to the health care professionals rather than their son. How on earth all this led to a brutal stabbing of two people is beyond imagining.
The news also reported how a doctor called Mark Chavez has become the second person to be charged for selling ketamine to Matthew Perry (Chandler from Friends) – the first was known as the Ketamine Queen. I listened to Matthew Perry’s autobiography which was full of sad times of loneliness and depression and wild times of the excessive use of every drug under the sun and alcohol.
More locally, Amy Dickson from Reigate, Surrey described how Christmas is hard due to her father who died in 2020 from his problematic drinking. Children with alcoholic parents can have a difficult time growing up and often report having to be ‘good’ and ‘invisible’ which is reflected in a recent film released by the National Association of Children of Alcoholics.
And in line with many rock stars before him, the base player from Biffy Clyro from Scotland announced he was leaving due to addiction and mental health problems.
So, on one hand we live in a world where drinking alcohol is a normalised part of an annual festival (as well as everyone other social get together across the year) and yet it can become a problem for so many people. Where is the line? and how does it become so much of a problem for some but not others?
The classic definition of addiction involves withdrawal and tolerance and its interference with our social, family and work lives. But in essence its about amount and control. If you are drinking so much that it’s damaging your health – that’s a problem. And if you can’t stop, you have lost control. I guess it’s the age old ‘moderation’ in everything yet again and once this line is crossed, the use of any substance, whether legal or not, is just going to do harm.
Then why do some people cross this line and why does it seem to be more common amongst the rich and famous? Often, addiction is just down to the people around us. Peer pressure is huge and if our friends and family indulge then we are so much more likely to do the same. We copy and we want to fit in. But also, at its simplest, we do anything because we like it and it makes us feel good. So, a drink or a drug that has an instant effect of pleasure (which they all do!) will make us want to do it again (and again!). But then along comes the negative consequences which put us off and should make us decide to stop. Unfortunately, these often come the following day which are hard to anticipate and very easy to forget. So, we often ignore them and next time do the same again. But when the more serious consequences come along that influence money, work, family, marriage and children, us mere mortals may get a wakeup call and announce ‘never again’. But for those in a peer group of excess AND with a fame and financial buffer, maybe the pressure to keep going is too great and the consequences are too far away making it easier to stay on that downward spiral.
So, find yourself a moderate peer group this Christmas, stay away from the rich and famous (!) enjoy and have fun and if you do overindulge try to remember how this feels so that you are less likely to do it again!




